back in the saddle

i haven't update this blog in so long...partially, just not knowing what to write or not putting aside the time to write, but so many things have been happening that much of the time i just didn't even think about it...so, back in the saddle and writing again.
so much is going on and has been going on...the kids are learning to read and write, they still need a lot of work on it, but the are 5 years old i don't expect them to be proficient any time soon. we've had our difficulties at school learning to grip the pencil, needing extra help writing, being distracted/low attention span, being teased, etc... but they are really blooming and blossoming in to wonderful and unique little dudes...choosing to wear blue nail polish to school despite adversity, wanting to grow hair long or wear gnome or viking hats to school (i crocheted the gnome hat, but bought the viking hats, but have since found patterns to crochet viking hats with detachable beards, which we may have to do), discussing and discovering ideas such as belief systems, and using our third eye and diversity...connor and declyn both have fairy friends that most people can't see, so they tell people all they need to do is use their third eye...unfortunately, most people do not/will not get the concept, but i encourage them to continue with their quests. connor has been showing great interest in the god thor (he's a super hero and a god, so that is extra cool) and declyn is more interested in the green man and stories of avalon and fairies, so i figure that we'll get books on both...read up on norse mythology and on green men and celtic myths and fairie stories, let them choose their paths as we go, let them decide what is right for them, they may change here and there, i know i've had my own variances and adaptations on my path. i hear from both teachers about how well behaved the boys are and how sweet and affectionate they are and how rare it is that they have a child so affectionate and connor's teacher loves the "apple notes" that i send in, saying that they help perk him up and lift his spirits and that she loves reading them to him because they are so special and so heartfelt. declyn is a special child in many ways...he has had extremely vivid dreams and nightmares since infancy and often seems "out of his body" or "in his own little world", usually because he sort of is...he does what some people spend a lot of time trying to do, but comes naturally to our family...he goes into the astral realm and sees 2 worlds at once...but he needs to learn to control it some so we are learning meditation techniques and making astral protection amulets and a special dream pillow and dream catcher for him. i'm sure some people are going to think it's crazy, but if anyone knows what indigo children are, they'll know just how special these "children" are (many indigoes are not children anymore). well, i'll leave it at that for the moment...i may come back in a day or two wth my gnome and elf hat pictures. peace and love to you all!

accentuating the positives and elimintaing the negatives

ok...so i've tried blogging many times before, but finding something i really wanted to write about or that seemed really worthwhile has been a challenge, however my friend Ilara had been posting on faceboook about negativity and needing more love in the world and someone had commented about the idea that the brain doesn't process the "no" or "not" in front of a word so thinking "no war" your brain processes "war" so it's better to think "peace"...i started thinking "well, how would that be to raise kids with that in mind and to not only use that with our kids but hard wire our whole brain and thinking to eliminate the negative and accentuate the positive". now this will take quite some time and a lot of work since for 35 years my brain has been pretty much trained to be the way it is and unlearning the negative thoughts and reprogramming to think positive and training my 4 and 1/2 year old twins to also focus on the positive could take quite a bit of work...i know when i'm angry i snap into the kind of mode i've always had people react to me...with yelling and aggressiveness, which is going to be a huge hurdle to navigate, but i believe that it can be done.
i'm formulating a plan...my sons and i will do yoga and i'll need to make mediation time for myself as well as doing some journaling and some meditating with the kids and while there are just my sons and i i think we would benefit from "family meetings" and the use of a talking stick, which i will make...i'm also looking into connecting more with our environment and with our food really getting to know our food and food sources better (and eliminating processed foods) as i think that what we eat greatly impacts our moods (partially due to our bodies toxic load and the energetic values of food, etc.). at this point i'm only reiki 1 certified, but would like to work my way up to reiki master and i want to work more with the kids on the reiki energy and reiki training...they are already aces at making reiki energy balls. i found that for the first week or so after receiving my reiki 1 attunements(many years ago) that i was less stressed and less aggressive (aka...much more relaxed and positive). another thing i think would help is to clean out and declutter our home and in fact our whole lives as much as possible (this may take quite some time and lots of baby steps).
people talk about holistic health and i'm a huge fan of holistic health approaches, but i want people to think of parenting holistically as well...nurturing the whole child...their mind, their creativity, their spirit and their body and whole foods and clear clean actions, intentions etc would really help in doing so. i'll be checking back in with progress on our accentuating the positive and eliminating the negative progress and on other radical parenting notions as regularly as i can.